NEW DATING HAS BEEN MADE BABU, MARRY ISN'T IT?
Saturday, June 1, 2019
I've always found friends (girls) who during courtship definitely want to do activities related to the household. Sweeping the cowonye boarding, washing clothes, etc. If it's only occasionally, I feel okay okay. But if it's always done every time at the boarding house, then you always tell me that you never even help, I'm so happy. Could it be that when married, they were married to a babu at home?
Recently I got a story from Doddy (a pseudonym) which tells the story of the love affair of Kantornye's friend, called Aje Ria and Rian.
Coincidentally Doddy is one office with Ria and Rian. In terms of friendship, Doddy was closer to Ria because it happened to be a work team.
Doddy and friends saw signs that it was not normal for a relationship (well, fiancee), Ria and Rian. Comrade Doddy, Tya, even after rebuking Ria for being careful.
In the office, Rian always makes tantrums with his own lover.
For example, at lunchtime, Rian always asked for food, brought spoons from the pantry, asked for food packages to be opened, asked for drinking water, etc. Every day coy !!!
"The Rian doesn't want to tell OB, bro?" I ask
"I'm afraid, always ask my girl to buy it from the warteg!"
WHAT THE HELL!
Even every morning, Rian always told Ria to prepare a glass of coffee. Once, one day, Rian was playing Mobile Legend in the pantry, then came to Ria's desk and said, "Make coffee, please!" then go back to the pantry to play ML.
I was crying, how come, sir. Yes, while it's in the pantry, isn't Kenape making it himself? Iye can't make coffee, can't I?
Good Netijen, want more safety again?
Rian will be furious if Ria walks or gets together with a sapon WITHOUT LICENSE. Good if Ria wants to walk with a girl or boyfriend. Both together or together. Rian once advised, "You always have to ask permission from me. Remember, we are already fiancees. If you still want to be free, why are you asking for your fiance?"
But strange, asking permission or not, but still Ria will be told by Rian. Confused, right?
Once, the friends of Doddy's team made a vacation to Semarang. Coincidentally, Rian was not Doddy's team, so he didn't participate. Only Ria is joining.
Those who went to Semarang had 5 people, 3 men including Doddy, and 2 girls including Ria. Namanye is a friend of the office, surely there must be no thoughts at all. It will protect each other, isn't it?
One week before leaving, Ria asked Rian for permission, and was allowed. But when Ria, Doddy, and 3 other friends arrived in Semarang, Rian went berserk.
"I never gave you permission, how come you left?" Rian said when he was in WA with Ria.
"How come you have licensed me, seriously!"
"But as long as you know, even if I say yes, I don't mean to give permission!" said Rian again.
Throughout the holiday, Ria wasn't happy, instead it was always badmood. All kawannye always try to comfort Ria, but still in a mood that can't lie. Ria looked sullen, not excited to walk along the beauty of the city of Semarang.
Once upon a time, Ria and Rian shared their wishes. Rian apologized, but who regretted it, Rian said, "The couple was angry with two. One, angry because of the spells. Two, because of love. Already, you study again huh!"
"Yes, I have to learn a lot," Ria said while violating herself when she was in the heart.
Gimane, how come you feel like this from the cerite? This is not my writing, you know, it's pure story from my friend. Something like this happens a lot, but the victims don't speak much. From this case, allow me to provide a solution for the type of possessive guy and love like Rian.
First, the Ministry of Women's Empowerment and Child Protection stated that Rian's actions included dating violence. Because in the case of this case, Rian had restricted the activities of the couple, even regulating, being irritable, curbing, too possessive, etc.
Unfortunately, this was not realized by Ria, who according to Doddy and friends, had an innocent character.
Rian's actions like that can be caused by several factors, such as:
1. Parenting parents who always commit acts of violence in Rian's childhood
2. The temperament that can't be limited by themselves
3. Economic factors that make stress more difficult to control emotions
and so on. If you want to run, you can go to this KPPA website.
Secondly, the case can be ended if Ria is aware and wants to let go of the trap. There was a baeknye, Ria could cut ties with Rian, the yellow yam wasn't curved. Because Rian's behavior like that would be difficult to change even though marriage and punye children. It can only be changed if there are deceased people. Rian wants to bring Rian to a psychologist.
Or maybe after Ria realized, Ria could ask for a break, and ask Rian (directly or through the parents) to bring Rian to a psychologist.
Third, from the side of friends, there is always a constant awareness of Ria before being late. If personal to personal doesn't work, try diem-diem talking about this to Ria's parents or sodara kandungnye. Jutsu, Rian, said, don't like that to the girl, you want to take karma, like the kid going to be dignified?
Is it really awesome? Try making an anonymous letter, send it to Ria's house. Either the letter is for Ria herself or for Ria's parents if you don't meet them. Realize them about the case of Ria-Rian's relationship that is not healthy.
I really hope that Ria's case doesn't happen again. The key is awareness of both victims like Ria and actors like Rian. Must be aware that they are wrong, especially Rian.
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